Showing posts with label Huffington Post. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Huffington Post. Show all posts

February 28, 2018

Racial Harmon-y


According to the Huffyton Boast (Huffington Post), a teenage woman made a false rape accusation, although fortunately no one was identified or arrested before she confessed to lying.

Breana Harmon (19) of Pottsboro, TX was reported missing when her car was found with the door open and some of her personal belongings scattered on the ground.  A few hours later she walked into a church wearing only her t-shirt, bra, and underwear, claiming she had been raped by 3 black males. Harmon is a white woman.

However, it turned out the lying skank had gotten into a fight with her fiancé, and was so upset she cut herself and her clothes.  She said she made up the rape story because she didn't want her family to be angry with her.

So this nasty woman actually thinks that her family being upset at her is somehow worse than accusing innocent people of rape. Wow. First World Problem.

Her scuzzy lawyer claims she was "remorseful" for what she did.  According to the 'news' article, falsifying  government documents in relation to kidnapping and sexual assault is a felony, but Harmon will see no jail time (instead, she will be given probation or community service).

Western women are the most privileged people in the world; they are so spoiled they think nothing of ruining other people's lives just to avoid getting in trouble.  You would have to be pampered and spoiled to think that mommy and daddy being angry with you is so bad that falsely accusing another person of a crime is somehow reasonable.

I was actually surprised that this article came out in the Huffyton Boast (I would think they would hide stories like this from the general public), until I realized that the accuser (criminal) was white and the accused (innocent victim) were black.  The Huffyton Boast is all about white on black crime (never the other way around, unless they can spin it somehow).

Had it been a black female that falsely accused white males of gang raping her (like the Duke Lacrosse scandal), or if it had been a white female accusing 3 white males of raping her, this story would have never made it on Huffyton Boast.  That is why they are Fake News.

Her fiancé should seriously reconsider being engaged to this nutjob. It might one day be him on the receiving end of her false accusations. Or one of his friends.



@HuffPost
#FakeNews
#FeminismIsCancer


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Original Article and link below:

https://www.yahoo.com/news/no-jail-texas-teen-lied-202854635.html

No Jail For Texas Teen Who Lied About Being Raped By 3 Black Men

David Moye
HuffPost  •  February 27, 2018


A North Texas teenager who falsely claimed she was kidnapped and raped by three black men last March will likely serve no jail time.

On Thursday, 19-year-old Breana Harmon of Pottsboro pleaded guilty to four felony charges of tampering with physical evidence and government documents in relation to false reports of kidnapping and sexual assault.

“She’s very remorseful for what she did and what she said, and that’s why she decided to plead guilty,” Harmon’s attorney Bob Jarvis told the Sherman Herald Democrat. No suspects were ever identified or arrested in the case.

Harmon will be sentenced March 20. Her plea deal has two possible punishments: regular probation or deferred adjudication, which often involves fulfilling a requirement, such as treatment or community service. Neither involves jail time.

On March 8, 2017, Harmon was reported missing to the Denison Police Department after witnesses noticed the door to her vehicle was open with personal items, including a phone and keys, scattered on the ground.

A few hours later, Harmon walked into a church wearing only a shirt, bra and underwear. She said she had been kidnapped by three black males wearing ski masks, according to the Sherman Herald Democrat. Harmon claimed the men assaulted her and and that she was raped by two men while a third held her down.

Investigators noticed inconsistencies in Harmon’s story within in a few days. Medical workers didn’t find evidence she had been raped, and the holes in a pair of blue jeans discovered at the alleged crime scene didn’t match her injuries, according to the Dallas Morning News.

“The puzzle pieces just weren’t coming together,” Denison Police Chief Jay Burch said, according to the Morning News.

Harmon told police two weeks later that she made up the rape and that cuts on her body were self-inflicted.

She told officers that she was upset after she and her fiancé had been fighting, according to the Herald Democrat. Harmon said she cut herself and her clothes, then made up the rape story because she didn’t want her family to be angry with her.

Burch said Harmon’s false allegations have hurt the community, especially its African-American residents.

“Breana [Harmon’s] hoax was also insulting to our community and especially offensive to the African-American community due to her description of the so-called suspects in her hoax,” Burch said, according to the Herald Democrat. “The anger and hurt caused from such a hoax are difficult and all so unnecessary.”

•    This article originally appeared on HuffPost.


September 25, 2015

Feminist Claptrap: Air conditioning is sexist



RADICAL Sanghani - this broad needs a nice warm glass of SHUT THE HELL UP
 
It's this sort of nonsense that gives women all over the world a bad name:  Apparently, women are complaining that office air conditioning is "sexist" just because the thermometer is set to a level that the 'average male' is comfortable with.

This however, prompts the obvious question: if we change things to 'suit women', then wouldn't that just make it sexist against males?

But of course, this question/argument never even enters these women's heads (big surprise - NOT).  To them, who cares how men feel.  As long as women are "comfortable" that's all that matters.  But that's what these denser-than-lead, self-centered cunts are all about: First World Problems.



I guess it never occurs to these women to put on a sweater, or god forbid DRESS PROFESSIONALLY like men have to do (suit and tie, slacks, button shirt).  But because women want to wear some stupid little sundress, spaghetti straps, mini skirt, low cut tops, etc., now everyone has to rearrange their their work environment so that Jane can show off that cute little number she got at the mall. Sorry, but the office is not a fashion runway - it's a place of work.  You don't get paid to prance around in that top that shows too much cleavage - you get paid to get the job done (supposedly).

If you turn the heat up then the problem is that men would be too hot, and we men don't have the luxury of taking off our clothes and working in t-shirts (or a sleeveless blouse).  It is much easier to warm up by putting on layers than it is to cool off. Everybody knows this.  For example, in the wintertime, you can always snuggle under a blanket. In the summer, you can walk around naked and it's still too hot.  Again, common sense, but common sense seems to elude these ridiculous women.

Here are some of the culprits for this 'crusade' (along with the web address to their article):

1. Leigh Whiner Weingus
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/science-why-women-are-freezing-at-work_55c0b385e4b06f8bedb5d7d7

2. Joy D'Souza (I wonder if she's related to that conservative idiot Dinesh) and Marc Lamont over-the Hill (the guy in the video for this article)
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2015/08/05/air-conditioning-women_n_7941968.html

3. Poor Nag Poorna Bell
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2015/08/04/air-conditioning-office-too-cold_n_7930956.html

4. Petulant Petula Clark
https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/frigid-offices-freezing-women-oblivious-men-an-air-conditioning-investigation/2015/07/23/bdd1b4b4-30ae-11e5-97ae-30a30cca95d7_story.html

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Let's look at the first article, by Ms. Whiner (I mean Weingus).  In it she writes the following (in italics). My comments are in bold plain text:

"If women have lower need for cooling it actually means you can save energy, because right now we’re just cooling for this male population."

But it's good for the environment!!!!!  Yeah yeah, whatever. I think energy conservation is the last thing on these women's minds.  That's just an excuse to guilt us into turning the thermostat up.
 
"Besides helping the environment out, there are other reasons to cut back on air conditioner use. Air conditioners can lead to breathing problems, fatigue and headaches, to name a few. "

Air conditioning causes fatigue and headaches?  Really?  Mmm-hmm.  You know what else causes those things? Nagging cunts.





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Now let's look at the second article.  This one was so stupid I found it offensive.  It includes a short video clip where the host (a doofus named Marc Lamont Hill (a.k.a Over The Hill) actually has the nerve to call a mathematical equation "sexist".  Really?!?!  A math equation is 'sexist'?  What's next, will science be sexist?  Holy mother of god what an idiot.

The premise of this Huffington Post article/interview is that, because air conditioning settings are based on a formula from the 1960’s using the metabolic rates of men (known as “Fanger’s Thermal Comfort Equation”), it is therefore sexist.

a screenshot of the journal article being discussed . . .

I was actually embarrassed watching the video, because the scientist being interviewed (Dr. Boris Kingma, a dutch biophysicist from the University of Maastricht) was probably thinking, "are all americans this loony"?  It's sad.  Here is a short excerpt from the interview (MLH is Marc Lamont Hill, the Huffington Post interviewer, and BK is Boris Kingma, the scientist who conducted the study). Their comments are in italics: 

MLH: “A lot of people were referring to Fanger’s Formula as ‘sexist’. Would you agree with that view?”.

BK: “No”

MLH: “Especially that second line; seems particularly sexist to me”.

BK: “Fanger’s equation is not sexist.  Fanger’s equation is a physical equation. So it determines the heat load a body will have, dependent on the clothing insulation and also the metabolic rate, and also depending on the air temperature, relative humidity, all those kind of parameters. And it scales that heat load to what would be the thermal sensation. So this Fanger’s equation is not sexist in any way. 

There's more to the interview but I think you get the gist.  Here is Fanger's equation:




Now, I'm guessing Mr. Marc Hill was joking (at least I hope so) when he said that the second line of that equation "looked sexist", but it was still a very stupid thing to say.  Especially when you are talking to someone whose primary language is not english, you have to be mindful that they may not pick up on the nuances of your sarcasm and humor.


the foolish american interviewer. it's easy for him to turn the heat up - he's in a t-shirt

The written part of the article (not the video above) also stated the following:

"Setting the temperature a little higher won't just benefit women — according to the researchers, a warmer office can also also help combat global warming."

So, just like the first article (by Leigh Weingus above), this one also tries to appeal to those concerned by the environment.

You know what else combats global warming? Not going shopping all the time or buying new clothes every season!!





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The third article on so-called sexist air conditioning is by another nutjob at the Huffington Post named PoorNag Poorna Bell. She states the following (in italics):

"In short, your air-con is sexist, as it's based on a gender bias that no longer exists. "

 Utterly bizarre. See, this is what happens when you let (certain) women into the workplace. They wanted more opportunities to work outside the home, they got them, and instead of being happy, they look for some reason to complain.  I thought they wanted equality?  I thought they were as tough as men (if not more so) and could take pain better?  Holy cow, WTF.

Dear Ms. Porno Hell (I mean Poorna Bell): These air conditioning settings were not put in place to 'keep women out' of the workplace. So why is is sexist?

Jeez, (some) women really suck.




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And finally, we have the fourth article written by some self-absorbed cretin at the Washington Post named Petula Dvorak. This one is just nauseating.  Her words are in "italics", and my comments are in bold plain text: 

"It’s the time of year desperate women rely on cardigans, pashminas and space heaters to make it through the workweek in their frigid offices. And their male colleagues barely notice.

"'Is your office too cold?' I asked a clutch of men — pinstripes, charcoal pants, crisp shirts with the faint outline of undershirts beneath.. . ."

"I found a trio, two women — shoulders bare — and a man, in handsome navy twill pants and a smart, checkered, button-down shirt, eating lunch together. . . ."

"So there you have it: the gender divide, thermostat edition. All these women who actually dress for the season — linens, sundresses, flowy silk shirts, short-sleeve tops — changing their wardrobes to fit the sweltering temperatures around them."

"And then there are the men, stalwart in their business armor, manipulating their environment for their own comfort, heaven forbid they make any adjustments in what they wear. 
That’s right, my friends. Air conditioning is another big, sexist plot." 

And THERE's your problem right there.  Unlike women, men have very little leeway in what they can wear to work, especially in a more conservative office setting.  Therefore, it makes sense to adjust the temperature to reflect this reality.  The dress code is actually more oppressive for men, but idiots like Ms. Dvorak just don't get it.  She only sees "oppression" against women.

Many men would dress cooler or more comfortably if they could; alas, many cannot. 


"Marshall [a woman who has been working in Washington D.C. since 1973] explained how frustrating it is to put on a pretty summer outfit and then get hit with that blast of cold. 'And you have to put on some jacked-up sweater you left at your desk.'”

Frustrating? I can maybe see "annoying", but 'frustrating?  Oh boo-hoo.  Try wearing a suit and tie in 90% humidity. SUCK IT UP!


"Setting the temperature to suit men is wrong in ways that go far beyond summer fashion." 

Because as well all know, summer fashion is the most important thing (glad to hear she has per priorities straight).  So, setting the temperature to suit women is . . . right?
Men bad, women good: that's the feminist mantra.



"Frozen workers make more errors and are less productive, according to Alan Hedge, professor of design and environmental analysis and director of Cornell’s Human Factors and Ergonomics Laboratory, who studied office temperatures about a decade ago." 

'Frozen workers'?  That's a little over the top, no? 



"Researchers had their hands on the controls at an insurance office for a month. And when they warmed the place from 68 to 77 degrees, typos went down by 44 percent and productivity went up by 150 percent." 

Assuming this is true (I don't know what their materials and methods were to quantify productivity, and I don't know how they kept track of typos or what they used as a baseline, and I don't know what the ratio of male workers to female workers was), what these results really say is that if your productivity can be affected so significantly because of a few degrees, then maybe you have no business working in an insurance office (or anywhere).

Otherwise, that means maybe the reason why firemen can't save every single life is because things are "too hot". Maybe if the temperature didn't act like such a jerk, firemen could save 150% more people than they do now.


"And the men can just switch to more reasonable fashion choices for warmer offices. I see plenty of tan, summer suits around town. And even some linen or seersucker from the Southern delegations to D.C." 

How about taking your own advice about fashion choices? (i.e. dress for colder offices?). A suit is a suit, whether it's tan or seersucker. A suit is hot. And nobody is going to take a businessman or politician seriously if he's wearing a seersucker suit to work.

But instead of seeing the irony in her statement, the author (Dvorak) just keeps on yapping.  Will this bitch ever shut the f**k up? 


"But come on, men, be bold.
I’m talking short suits. They’re adorable! Plus, we’d all love to see your knees, guys." 

Short suits?  Really?  You mean dress like Arnold Schwarzenegger in the movie "Twins"? Even little boys don't wear short suits anymore. OMG WTF is this Dvorak character smoking?

Additionally, she makes it sound as if it is up to us.  - It's not.  Management decides the dress code, so if they say conservative suit and tie, they mean it. Doesn't matter how 'bold' we feel like dressing.

Lastly, suit is still a suit. Your legs may be cooler in such a ridiculous get-up, but your upper body will still be sweltering.

Only a feminist newspaper columnist could get away with writing such nonsense.  But maybe that's her job - to complain about useless sh*t.  So to her I say: 
 



Below are the original articles in all their idiocy.


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Science Has An Explanation For Why Women Are Freezing At Work
 

Blame it on the 154-pound man.


Leigh Weingus | Healthy Living Writer at The Huffington Post
Posted: 08/04/2015 12:23 PM EDT | Edited: 08/06/2015 02:47 PM EDT
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/science-why-women-are-freezing-at-work_55c0b385e4b06f8bedb5d7d7


If you're the type of woman who's always wrapping herself in a giant blanket during the steaming hot summer months at work, there's a reason for that. According to a new report, office temperatures are tailored for 40-year-old, 154-pound men.

The report, published in Nature Climate Change, found that the temperature in buildings is based on a 1960s "thermal comfort model" determined by the American Society of Heating, Refrigerating and Air-Conditioning Engineers.

The model takes factors like clothing, humidity, air speed and metabolism into consideration, but there are a few problems with that, including that it was established five decades ago. For context, Forbes reported "the percentage of adult American women who are employed climbed from about 37 percent  in 1965 to about 55 percent in 2008, according to data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics and the National Bureau of Economic Research."

"Women are generally smaller than men and have a higher body fat percentage. So, their metabolic rate is 20 percent to 35 percent lower," lead researcher Boris Kingma said, according to Business Insider. Because muscle keeps the body warmer than fat does, this explains why office temperatures are usually just fine for men.

As physicist Joost van Hoof pointed out to the New York Times, “If women have lower need for cooling it actually means you can save energy, because right now we’re just cooling for this male population."

Besides helping the environment out, there are other reasons to cut back on air conditioner use. Air conditioners can lead to breathing problems, fatigue and headaches, to name a few.



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Office Air Conditioning Is Unfair To Women, According To Science

The Huffington Post Canada  |  By Joy D'Souza
Posted: 08/05/2015 2:45 pm EDT Updated: 08/06/2015 11:59 am EDT
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2015/08/05/air-conditioning-women_n_7941968.html


If you're a woman working in an office, you probably have both a blazer and a blanket stashed away in your desk, and chances are you're using one or both of them on the hottest day of the year.

The reason? Air conditioning turns offices into ice boxes and most men don't even notice.

A new study published in the Journal of Nature Climate Change says that office buildings are setting their temperature based on an old formula which is calculated using the metabolic rate of a 40-year old man weighing more than 154 pounds.

And this doesn't even take into account the differences between the clothing men and women wear in the summer. While most summer clothes for women are designed with thinner fabrics and shorter hemlines, many men's wardrobes remain unchanged, with some offices still insisting men wear suits to work.

Curious as to how the cold air affects women, researchers at Maastricht University in the Netherlands also monitored the metabolic rates of office workers and found that the women's rates were 20 to 32 per cent lower than their male counterparts, The Star explains.

Setting the temperature a little higher won't just benefit women — according to the researchers, a warmer office can also also help combat global warming, the New York Times reports.
As scientist Boris Kingma explains, “if you have a more accurate view of the thermal demand of the people inside, then you can design the building so that you are wasting a lot less energy."



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Air Conditioning In Offices Is Too Cold (And Sexist) As It's Based On Metabolic Rate Of Middle Aged Men

The Huffington Post UK  |  By Poorna Bell
Posted: 04/08/2015 10:00 BST Updated: 04/08/2015 10:59 BST
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2015/08/04/air-conditioning-office-too-cold_n_7930956.html


Almost every woman who works in an office has taken part in the air-conditioning wars.
For a history lesson - this is when we say the air-con is too high, and the men invariably tell us to 'harden up' because clearly our frail female bodies can't cope with the temperature.

However finally, the day of reckoning is upon us.

Researchers from Maastricht University in the Netherlands say that women prefer a warmer temperature of around 25C compared with 22C for men.

Most offices use a rule of thumb from the 60s - selecting an average temperature based on the metabolic rate of a middle aged man. The metabolic rate is how fast your body burns energy and generates heat as a result.

As a result, the air-con is set too high, as women tend to have a lower metabolic rate than men - meaning they need more warmth.

In short, your air-con is sexist, as it's based on a gender bias that no longer exists.

Writing in the journal Nature Climate Change, Dr Boris Kingma and Professor Wouter van Marken Lichtenbelt said: "Thermal comfort models need to adjust the current metabolic standard by including the actual values for females."



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Frigid offices, freezing women, oblivious men: An air-conditioning investigation


By Petula Dvorak | July 23, 2015 | Washington Post
https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/frigid-offices-freezing-women-oblivious-men-an-air-conditioning-investigation/2015/07/23/bdd1b4b4-30ae-11e5-97ae-30a30cca95d7_story.html


You can spot them. The frozen ones who come outside at lunch like sun-seeking turtles, cardigans balled up next to them, bare shoulders defrosting in the noon sunlight, no matter how wilting it is outdoors.

Every single woman I talked to in downtown Washington on a hot, humid July afternoon was thawing out.

“I. Am. Fuh-reezing. Feel my hand — I’m still cold,” said Ruth Marshall, 64, who was seated on a park bench, face to the sky. And, yes, her hand felt like a cold steak.

“I have to come out here for 30 minutes at a time just to warm up,” said Marshall, the director of administration at a construction firm where the air conditioning is set to Arctic.

It’s the time of year desperate women rely on cardigans, pashminas and space heaters to make it through the workweek in their frigid offices. And their male colleagues barely notice.

 “Is your office too cold?” I asked a clutch of men — pinstripes, charcoal pants, crisp shirts with the faint outline of undershirts beneath.

They looked at me as if I spoke in Finnish, confident faces contorted in puzzlement.
“No.”
“Nah, I don’t know what you’re talking about.”
So I asked another guy in a navy suit eating a taco.
“No. It’s fine.”
Two dudes in matching blue shirts and red ties?
“Fine.” “No.” Zippity happity do da fine.

Hmm. A pattern?

Let’s be scientific about this, then. How about a female-centric office? At Emily’s List, which raises money for women running for office, the temperature setting must be female-friendly, right?

 “It’s freezing — here’s my sweater,” said one of the outdoor she-turtles who works at the woman-powered firm.

“But we don’t have control over the temperature on our floor,” she clarified. “It’s set for the whole building.”

By a man, perhaps?

How about men and women who work in the same office? (Because we’re doing top-notch investigative work here.)

I found a trio, two women — shoulders bare — and a man, in handsome navy twill pants and a smart, checkered, button-down shirt, eating lunch together.

They all work together at a company that deals with international education issues. How’s the weather inside while they’re working on educating the globe?
“Cold.”
“Freezing.”
“It’s fine.”

You know I don’t have to tell you who said what.

So there you have it: the gender divide, thermostat edition. All these women who actually dress for the season — linens, sundresses, flowy silk shirts, short-sleeve tops — changing their wardrobes to fit the sweltering temperatures around them.

And then there are the men, stalwart in their business armor, manipulating their environment for their own comfort, heaven forbid they make any adjustments in what they wear.

That’s right, my friends. Air conditioning is another big, sexist plot.

“It’s been going on for years, every building I’ve been in. It’s awful,” said Marshall, who has worked in Washington since 1973. “Everything is set at 70 degrees for those testosterone-toting people.”
Marshall explained how frustrating it is to put on a pretty summer outfit and then get hit with that blast of cold. “And you have to put on some jacked-up sweater you left at your desk.”

Okay. I think Marshall was finally heated up.

Setting the temperature to suit men is wrong in ways that go far beyond summer fashion.

Frozen workers make more errors and are less productive, according to Alan Hedge, professor of design and environmental analysis and director of Cornell’s Human Factors and Ergonomics Laboratory, who studied office temperatures about a decade ago.

Researchers had their hands on the controls at an insurance office for a month. And when they warmed the place from 68 to 77 degrees, typos went down by 44 percent and productivity went up by 150 percent.

Plus, the U.S. Energy Department estimates that you can save about 11 percent on power bills by raising the thermostat from 72 to 77 degrees.

And the men can just switch to more reasonable fashion choices for warmer offices. I see plenty of tan, summer suits around town. And even some linen or seersucker from the Southern delegations to D.C.

But come on, men, be bold.

I’m talking short suits. They’re adorable! Plus, we’d all love to see your knees, guys.

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Petula is a columnist for The Washington Post's local team who writes about homeless shelters, gun control, high heels, high school choirs, the politics of parenting, jails, abortion clinics, mayors, modern families, strip clubs and gas prices, among other things.

October 24, 2012

Huff-Post (I hate my husband)




This was one of the more depressing articles I have come across.  It was posted on the “Huffington Post” website by some woman (Iris Krackhead Krasnow) who thinks she makes a good marriage counselor and considers herself a writer.  Her post was written in response to a heartless cunt (named "Cindy") asking her for advice.

I don’t even have to criticize how god awful these two people are, as they do a pretty good job themselves.  I have broken down the article below (comments by original author (Iris) or poster (Cindy) are in italics, my response in plain text):


“I get hate mail like this using slightly different language several times a week. Substitute the word "hate" for "loathe", "despise", "can't stand" and occasionally, "wanna kill".”

You know if a guy said he hated/loathed/despised/can’t stand/wanted to kill his wife, he would branded a sexist sicko.  Yet women all over the world who read this are nodding their head in agreement.


“Plenty of wives think about divorce at least once a month, if not more, and manage to stay married for decades.”

So, the woman lying next to me in bed might just be pretending she loves me.  She may secretly (or not so secretly) loath me and wish I would go away forever.  Why don’t these gutless turds file for divorce if they hate us so much?


“Any woman married for longer than six months, if she is honest, knows the eggshell thin line that separates loving from loathing.”

Six months?  That’s all?  Are women really this bitter?  I don’t buy it.  Even I don’t think most married women are this bad (and this is coming from someone who has lost faith in women). But maybe I'm wrong.


“Any wife who is honest knows the compulsion to throw things, to hiss, to swear, to sit in the driveway in your bathrobe, engine running, sobbing.”

Men don’t normally have the luxury to do these sorts of silly things.  We have stuff to do, so I suggest that these ladies do the same.  FIX IT or DEAL WITH IT!



“What wife among you hasn't occasionally sucked down too much wine to numb the pain of grinding against the same person, in the same house, every day, for weeks, months, years?”

This comment is ridiculous on so many levels.  First it portrays women as drug addicts (yes, alcohol is a drug).  It is drug addicts who use drugs as an escape mechanism and emotional crutch.

Grinding” against the same person?  Your loving husband is the daily grind?  What a callous statement.  And talk about the pot calling the kettle black.  Maybe these women should be happy that somebody still cares about their tired, worn out ass.

OF COURSE it's going to be the “same person in the same house [day in day out]” – DUH!!!  Don’t you know that’s what marriage is?  The agreement to be with the same person forever!?  The agreement that you will no longer date others?  If you don’t want to see the same person every night then you should either stay single or behave like the nasty skank you are and have continual 1-night stands. Gross.


“Yet we stay married because the love out-muscles the hate in our relationships.”

First of all, there should not be ‘hate’.  Though we may not love everything about our mates, to hate means there is something inherently wrong.

Second of all, these types of women do not stay married because love ‘out-muscles the hate’ – they stay married because of intertia (they are comfortable) and because they don’t have the balls to get a divorce.


“I know from my own 24-year marriage and from the resilient women in The Secret Lives of Wives who have stuck it out for up to 60 years that marriage is ever-changing.”

I can’t believe this woman has remained married for so long.  I feel sorry for her husband.  He must be a total doormat or is entirely ignorant about how his wife feels about him.  The poor chap.

“Resilient woment”?  More like stubborn barnacles latched onto their husbands for fear of being swept away by life.  This author really is too generous to her (female) readers.  PATHETIC!


Of course this silly crackpot author seems like a saint compared to “Cindy”, the woman who wrote in complaining about her marriage.  This is what Cindy says (which is the attitude of many (if not most) women out there, married or not):
 
-“We seem to always be fighting . .  about the stupidest things
-“Sex is still, good, yes. But we don't have it very often. I find myself lusting after other men."”
-“I know I'm lucky to be married to someone sexy. Some of my friends don't go near their husbands.”
-“I wonder if [this hate] is a sign that there could be a better partner out there for me.”
-“Little things grate on me every day.”
-“My husband chews his food loudly. I hate his father.”
-“he [her husband] is a gentle man and a hands-on father.”
-“I have never been suspicious of him being with other women.”
-“He makes a good living, and that has enabled me to stay home with the kids.”
-"My hate comes from this feeling that I'm missing out on something else."
-“ Okay I admit I don't have any really big problems. So what about this sense of just feeling bored?"

So let me get this straight, Cindy (and all those women out there).  You are married to a faithful and devoted husband and family man who is still physically attractive and whom you have good sex with and who is also a gentleman.  And not only that, he makes enough money so you don’t have to work outside the home.  And it’s still not enough, because you are bored and think you are missing out on something better?!?!

Cindy - you are one of the most disgusting and repugnant beings on the face of the earth.  A loathsome abomination.  A base, detestable creature in human form.

(I would call you a blood-sucking succubus except that succubi always have sex with their victims.)


Then the author chimes in one last time.  This is what she says:

“In the early years of marriage, during my 30s and into my early-40s, I often longed for a different life. In my 50s, I am grateful for a predictable routine with the same husband who has helped me raise four interesting sons.”

Uh, she longed for a different life in her 30’s and 40’s because she was still young enough to get a date.  Now that her looks have faded in her 50’s and she realizes that her prospects for finding a new man are slim to nil, she decides that she is ‘grateful’ to have the old ball and chain around.  Nice try Krasnow, but we can see through your bullsh*t.


“Ever tell a sibling or a parent, 'I hate you'? Then, an hour later, you are hugging and wetting each other's faces with tears.”

Children and other immature people may tell their loved ones that they 'hate' them.  As an adult, I would never say that to a sibling or parent (unless I didn't love them).  I may hate some of the things they do, but in a loving relationship I would never personally hate a person.  I (and tons of people like me) are proof that hate and love do not depend on each other.  You can be full of both, but each is independent of the other.

This is truly a depressing (but not totally surprising) article.  To all the men reading this, please think long and hard if you are thinking about getting married.  More likely than not, this is what awaits you after “6 months” of marriage.  And for the rest of your married life.


Men, If you really want to get married go ahead.  If you are only getting married because “it’s the thing to do” then please DON’T GET MARRIED!!!!!!!!!  Don’t give these bitches a reason to walk all over you.

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Original article is below:
(http://www.huffingtonpost.com/iris-krasnow/help-i-hate-my-husband_b_1229627.html)


Help! I Hate My Husband!'

by Iris Krasnow

Author, 'The Secret Lives of Wives: Women Share What It Really Takes To Stay Married'


"Help! I hate my husband."

This is how a letter starts in my Inbox today. It's from a 41-year-old woman named Cindy in Dallas who has been married for 12 years. I get hate mail like this using slightly different language several times a week. Substitute the word "hate" for "loathe", "despise", "can't stand" and occasionally, "wanna kill".

I always tell these women the same thing: You are definitely not alone. Plenty of wives feel this way. Plenty of wives think about divorce at least once a month, if not more, and manage to stay married for decades. My conclusions about the see-saw between hate and love come not as a psychologist or as a minister who counsels her flock. I am an author of five relationship books, including The Secret Lives of Wives, to whom women tend to tell all, about joy and sorrow and cheating and lying, about hot sex and no sex - and lots of dish in between.

Any woman married for longer than six months, if she is honest, knows the eggshell thin line that separates loving from loathing. The deeper the love, the deeper the potential to hate. Any wife who is honest knows the compulsion to throw things, to hiss, to swear, to sit in the driveway in your bathrobe, engine running, sobbing.

What wife among you hasn't occasionally sucked down too much wine to numb the pain of grinding against the same person, in the same house, every day, for weeks, months, years?

Yet we stay married because the love out-muscles the hate in our relationships. On those days we are socked under a gray malaise, we are suddenly lifted into the light as we walk by an old photo of the family, arms looped, heads pressed together, as if we are one big animal. And so it goes; happy some moments, miserable some moments, yet grounded in this flux of emotions by a fundamental commitment to each other, to the children, to forge onward.

I know from my own 24-year marriage and from the resilient women in The Secret Lives of Wives who have stuck it out for up to 60 years that marriage is ever-changing. Their own survival stories prove that periodic explosions can open up the channels to richer and stronger relationships.

I ended up having an hour-long email conversation with Cindy from Texas. She hit my heart. I felt her pain. I've been there, and persevered. Hopefully these snippets from our exchange will help you swing through the moods of hating toward loving, or at least toward liking him a lot, again.

From Cindy:
"At some point every week I feel like leaving him. When we got married I imagined this great life we would have together and instead we seem to always be fighting, about the kids, about the fact that he is so remote, about the stupidest things."

From me:
"Are you still attracted to him?"

From Cindy:
"Sex is still, good, yes. But we don't have it very often. I find myself lusting after other men."

From me:
"Have sex more often with your husband. Keep the lusting in your imagination unless you want a torn up heart and buckets of guilt. Fantasy can be way better than reality; take it from one married woman who told me how she took a hubba-hubba office mate to a nearby hotel. Once he took off his shirt she saw a back that was so hairy she couldn't even kiss him: As she put it: 'He was gorgeous in his suit and I should have left it at that.'

"Sorry if this offends because your husband has a hairy back. I'm sure he's adorable, but it wasn't this woman's taste.

From Cindy:
"No hairy back - don't like them either. I know I'm lucky to be married to someone sexy. Some of my friends don't go near their husbands. But this hate I feel, it simmers and I wonder if it's a sign that there could be a better partner out there for me. Little things grate on me every day. My husband chews his food loudly. I hate his father. I hate our domestic hum-drum. This can't be love!"

From me:
"Does he beat you? Is he gambling away all your money? Is he verbally abusive to you? Does he whack your children? Is he a philanderer?"

From Cindy:
"No, he's a gentle man and a hands-on father. I have never been suspicious of him being with other women. He makes a good living, and that has enabled me to stay home with the kids.
"My hate comes from this feeling that I'm missing out on something else."

From me:
"Here's what you are missing out on, according to some wives who write to me. How about the agony of finding out your husband is sleeping with your best girlfriend? Or, getting daily critiques from your husband that you are repulsive to look at and lazy? One woman shared with me how her husband grew so frustrated with their autistic five-year-old he tossed him across the room."

From Cindy:
"Yikes! Okay I admit I don't have any really big problems. So what about this sense of just feeling bored?"

Last one from me:
"In the early years of marriage, during my 30s and into my early-40s, I often longed for a different life. In my 50s, I am grateful for a predictable routine with the same husband who has helped me raise four interesting sons. We loathe and we love and we carry on. When boredom hits, I go drinking with my girlfriends.

"Could my life be better with someone new? Perhaps, until the new becomes old, which it inevitably does. Does my head get turned by chiseled men in well-cut suits? Yes. Then I remember that I don't want to necessarily see what's under those threads. Acting on lust often turns out not to be true love but to be true disappointment. It takes grit and prolonged intimacy to love deeply and hate deeply and thus is the rhythm of family relationships. Ever tell a sibling or a parent, 'I hate you'? Then, an hour later, you are hugging and wetting each other's faces with tears.

"It takes a lot of love to hate."

This blogger's book, The Secret Lives of Wives can be found here, and she can be found on: www.iriskrasnow.com